Venting Out.

Feeling sad today. I have to say, I don't agree with the saying "You get what you give". Some people can be so clueless of how a relationship works. And I'm not talking about"romantic relationships". Well, at least not in my case. Relationships are tough because it involves another person. And we are all different. What is important to me may not be important to you so if you are not paying attention to what is important to me, then you are hurting me without even knowing it because you don't really think it's something important. What?!? Confusing. But it's a fact. If you've ever heard or read about the Five Love Language, you should have an idea of how this works. My heart is a little broken right now because I recently got dumped. It made me feel less important to that person and honestly, disrespected for not honoring what was promised to me. There can be a lot of situations, a lot of excuses. And most of the time, I try to understand and even justify that persons actions just to get over my anger. But sometimes, it's just too obvious and there's no way of understanding. It is simply what it is. I got dumped! I know for a fact that what is important to me is NOT important to that person. And since I can't change anybody, I will just have to accept it. And then there's the "seniority" issue. In our culture, if you are younger, whatever you say is not as significant. It doesn't mean you are less loved, it's just that you may not be taken seriously...or thought of as someone with less knowledge. Some people don't realize that you grow up and most of the time, get enough life experience to know more about things than someone older who lived a very sheltered life. This is something that I am having a really hard time with. I was born and raised in this culture. It gets me every single time. I really HATE that part of our culture. People don't understand that you, your life, your thoughts and ideas are just as important as theirs. Your feelings are valid too. It's so frustrating, it may be my fault for not letting that person know how I feel, but seriously, why bother? People don't like being told when they are wrong. And honestly, in this case, I am choosing my battles. Because I know for a FACT that if I do take that route.... things can only get uglier. Unfortunately, this is not someone I can just disconnect myself to. So I gotta figure out how I can fix this. Because as upset as I am with that person right now. Love still prevails. I keep on doing this. Over and over. Setting myself up to failure. Hoping for a better treatment, a better relationship. But I guess that's what unconditional love is. Just like God's love for us. No matter how much you hurt, you still love. You forgive. I feel closer to God when I do. So I guess I just got my answer. I forgive. It's easier than holding a grudge.